Perhaps the most controversial subject in the lifestyle is the single male.  I’ve noticed things have been changing in the last 10 years or so and solo studs are much more appreciated now, but there are still challenges.  

Syn is one of the few places where good dudes are not only welcome but wanted.  However at the same time they cause 90% of my headaches.   In this blog I will go how the solo male policy evolved over time and why we do things the way we do.  

When I got into the LS solo dudes were not really welcome and barely even tolerated.  Very few couples played with solo guys and Unicorn Hunting was the big thing.  

When Syn first opened we were taking over a dive bar in West Tulsa and our play room was next door.  This was a big deal at the time because no other clubs had playrooms at that time in the area.  For a solo dude to go to the play area he had to be accompanied by a woman or a couple.   If that woman left the playroom he had to go.  We were doing ok but not really anything big.  

I kept having couples tell me they wish they had a night now and then where guys could go over there.  My mindset was still “solo dudes are bad”  and it took me forever to give it a shot.  

We finally tried it and my anxiety was high.  I made long posts about rules and hired extra staff.  Night came and everything went perfectly fine.  Better yet we were packed.  We always had issues at that location because of the local wildlife but it was no more than usual.  

So I started running solo male friendly events once a month.  They were always our biggest events bringing not only guys, but solo ladies and couples.  Especially couples I wasn’t seeing any other time.  

Then COVID happened and we got shut down.  That was a very hard time because Syn was my only income.  I maxed out all my credit just living and still paying rent on a location I wasn’t allowed to open.  When we opened back up, me and the bar owner had a huge falling out.  So I had to move the events to just the playroom and the bar was back open to the public.  

This was a bad time.  To continue on I had to raise prices (It was only 20 a couple at that time)  and I was raising prices while downgrading significantly.  Our “social area”  was literally a folding table and chairs in the alley.  It was bad but I was tapped out and couldn’t invest in anything better.  

When we moved to the playroom only I had to let the solo guys in.  I couldn’t make them pay more and stand in the alley.  Despite how shitty the set up was, enough people still came and I was able to slowly do better.  Eventually I was able to drop 11K  and build our first party patio.     

That’s when Syn really took off.   It still wasn’t a great set up.  Our social area was outside.  It didn’t matter though if it was snowing, raining or stupid hot we were still turning people away every Saturday.  It’s why every Syn location will always have  a patio.  Weed smokers and solo dudes saved Syn.  

It’s then I really started focusing on what Syn was and where we wanted to go.  Syn’s mission statement is “A safe place for women to fulfill their fantasies.”  As long as the women are safe and having fun then we as dudes also benefit.  

By far the biggest fantasy of a lot of women is multiple men.  In recent years the dynamic of Hotwife, Stag & Vixen and Cuckhold has really been on the rise.   So by being Female Focused we by default become solo male friendly.

So the obvious question I get is “If you like us so much why do we pay more?”  I’ll be blunt. I like you so much because you pay more and take up less space than a couple so I can fit more people in the club.  

Syn is my second LS club I have owned.  Over the years I have tried every version of solo dude entry you can think of.  The one that works the best is a higher fee with the threat of being removed and not getting your money back.  It’s why so many places do it and even vanilla clubs charge extra.  Comparably Syn is much cheaper for dudes then most places.  Many places you pay much more to be shunned by most of the crowd and staff.  

Another question I get a lot is why we don’t have couples only nights.  We tried that a few times and they were disasters.  Many people show up that don’t even know the theme.  They just come out every Saturday.  So the people that did read don’t come and the ones there aren’t getting what they want as I turn away guys that they do want.  The anti solo male crowd is very loud.  They don’t need any excuse to tell you how much they dislike males.  However they don’t show up and support us when we do events for them.  Most of the other clubs get less dudes than us.  They just might be a better fit for you.  

We do have a couple of options for you to play at Syn if you prefer couples only.   We have a couples only room as well as the private room.  Ironically one of the issues we constantly deal with is couples bringing in solo guys in the couples only room.  This area isn’t as big as we would like and the location that we are trying to secure will have a larger couples only area.  

I’m debating on running a Friday night event right before Cum One, Cum All that will be ladies or couples only.  It’s just so much work to turn around this location in 24 hours that I’m not sure it’s worth it.  

Probably the most controversial thing that happens at Syn is the bed lurkers.  I have tried on and off several times to hang curtains and they always get ripped down.  

Here’s the issue with the bed lurkers.  At the westside location  I was in the playroom the whole night.  I would get so irritated at the bed lurkers and want to tell them to stop.  However the problem is it works.  A guy can be standing there looking like Jason from Friday the 13th and next thing I know he’s joining in.  

I was 3 feet from a lady that had these amazing boobs.  I wanted to touch them so badly.  This guy that I thought was looking pretty creepy reaches over and just grabs them.  I start to say something and she pulls him in.  I talked to him afterwards and told him normally that’s not how it works.  Everyone was happy though so it’s not like I can get too upset.  

Many women don’t want the song and dance, they just want the action.   We have to balance out what everyone wants.  If you are in the group room area you are going to get more forward people.  That’s what that room is for.  Don;t be afraid to use your voice and ask the guys to back up.  

Ladies by no means am I saying you need to tolerate being groped without being asked.   All I’m asking is to show a little grace, not everyone is the same.  

It’s really hard to be solo at an event.  I go sometimes when I travel and I never even get close to playing because I’m that guy sitting in the corner.  Most of the complaints I get about solo guys are more them failing a vibe check than actually doing anything wrong.  I get why a guy standing there is off putting but at the same time he’s just standing there.  Lots of couples are also just standing around.  

I’ve been to a few other clubs outside the state.  The Men of Syn behave much better than I have seen at a lot of other places.  Most of our issues would be cleared up if the dudes would just read.  

I could go on for a while but this is already pretty long so I will wrap it up here.   Feel free to ask any questions.